Everyday.... Mother's Day.......

Mother 's Day....

Can you even write about this day????

It is one of the most heart filled holidays anywhere...

I have always felt bad for people who for one reason or another have had bad or strained relationships with their mothers...

There was a time when I was much younger that I could not even fathom that kind of feeling towards your own mother... but as I have grown quite a bit older and just a little wiser..

I now understand that some women are just not comfortable in the "Mother " role.. either because of their nature... or because of lack of Nurture.

Either way it is through no fault of their own that a strong loving bond just never happened.. and unfortunately it can get passed on.

In reality .. we see it in nature all the time.. Sometimes mother animals will just reject or even kill their own offspring it's not pretty... it is reality

While this IS sad...

I think perhaps even sadder is the loss of a mother... especially if that bond was good and close.

Fortunately I still have Mamma... and I cannot even allow my thoughts to wander to the inevitable time when she will no longer with me... It just does not compute...

But I feel the gut wrenching spirit of how it must be, to have had that one person in your life who loved you so completely ... who loved you without agenda.. not be there for you anymore.

It has to be the most bitter thing.

Still these are lucky in comparison to those who may have never or hardly known their mother's perhaps having lost them at a young age...

The ache for what might have been, and for memories that will never be .....is perhaps even more difficult.

I am no expert ... but this I do know...

We are shaped by the people around us.. those who have raised us... lived with us. and nurtured our spirits and lives.. None hold a greater role in this then our Mothers....

Perhaps an even greater effect is Lack,of having had a good mother.

It will either make better... or .... bitter.

So on this day... that we Honor all Mothers...

The Good and loving mothers, The Crazy embarrassing ones, The ones we have buried and miss with all our hearts, The woman who never actually birthed a child, but loved and helped shape a child in her life....

Even the not so good ones..

Perhaps to them one could offer forgiveness .... for their human limitations.

They still helped shape who we are today.

Yes.......It is a strange and ethereal bond we mothers have with our children..our own or adopted.

We just know that God put those lives in ours for a reason..

(Even if around 16-17 years of age we can't remember what the heck that reason could have been... )

We never truly forget the bonds that tie...

For me personally I cannot begin to imagine my life and everything in it without my mother...

I cannot for one minute imagine my life without the two wonderful children I helped bring into this world.

How lucky I have been...

How Blessed I have been.

So on this special day... the only thing I can think of to say is.... THANK YOU... MOM..

You have been my lifeline even before my life.

THANK YOU Martin and Maria... You are my beautiful beautiful legacy.