Marcy's Life Lesson: "We are all connected"

The loss is not yours alone she said, and you will see it in their eyes when they do not think you are watching.

How long does it take? I said & she put her hand on my chest & we did not speak.

Brian Andreas

Thought this Brian Andreas quote fit so perfectly.. I know EXACTLY how my friend feels about her loss..

Death of a parent is a unique experience..and until you have gone through it you.... cannot fully comprehend what it all means and who you become as a person.

It is an ominous club that one does not long to become a member of.

Yet peace comes.. Time heals... Life and all of us still in it will go on. We have no other choice.

Now the life lesson part.

{I will preface this by saying.. I may have written about this in some way here on the blog.. If so I cannot find it in the bat cave. bare with me.}

LIFE LESSON: WE ARE ALL CONNECTED

Quite a few years back ...

Once again at the funeral of someone I loved dearly. The moment had arrived that sometimes does at these events.. where the minister asks if anyone had anything they would like to share .... thoughts... feelings.. or memories.

No one would or could get up and say what they were feeling.

Still an uncomfortable feeling permeated the air.. There was a sense that SOMEONE should get up and say something.
How could we all have been touched by this wonderful person and yet all be at such a loss as to what to say.

Now... I am not afraid of public speaking at all.. I am not afraid to speak period. ( I know what a surprise) but this.. this was different It wasn't that I was afraid to speak..

What I was afraid of was that grief would wrap it's slimy hands around my vocal cords and snuff out the words( as inefficient as they were ) to express the feelings in my heart.

In my hands I had a beautiful hand made crochet table cloth.(A gift that was to go to my mother who could not be there)

Suddenly out of no where I could see it.. the patterns on this beautiful piece of hand woven love gave me the words to express how I felt .. and how connected we all are.

First I gave the facts ( at least the facts that I and everyone else knew)

Then with difficulty I expressed my own gratitude for having had this incredible woman in my life... about how different my own life would have been had she not done the things she did for me and my family.... then came the table cloth..

I explained that the table cloth had shown me a lesson..

Up close... each small loop simply hooks on to the next.. it doesn't seem to have any great beauty to it.

It is only when you hold the table cloth up.. and spread it out... perhaps stand back and look at the entire thing that you see the patterns.

You see the importance that each loop makes ....with out it the pattern would change completely..and that is what death is.. suddenly that intricate pattern is changed a very large gap is made when someone we love dies.

We feel like nothing is right in the world.. Yet we come together.. latch on to each other.. and the pattern continues .. and somehow because of .. or in spite of those seemingly huge gaps.. the beauty of this tapestry becomes completely apparent.
Each loop is necessary.. and so is each gap.

So you see.. we really are all connected.. Where we are placed in this great tapestry effects the pattern.

Events like Birth.. Death.. Sickness... Happiness... Love.. all of the "Stuff" that life is made of.. has ripple effect we are joined together whether we see it ... or not.

So.. Hukuna Matata

Sorry didn't mean to get all Disney on you .. but I guess there really is a circle of life.

*G.. I am here if you need me...God Bless.

Found it.. The original story HERE