Love IS Infinite !!

A couple of days ago.. I asked that you send some Birthday /Good vibes to my friend Lori's Mom who had been battling Cancer for quite a few years.


I was heartbroken to hear from my dear friend that her Mom Passed days after her birthday.

The pain in my friend's voice resonated so deeply with me that it was as if an invisible hand had reached right through the phone line and choke me in the neck.
I am all too familiar with that palpable pain that courses through the body ..It stops the vocal cords... Starts the tear ducts ... and breaks the heart.

It is a sad association I am a part of..
One in which each member has lost one or both parents.
It is the kind of club that one does not long to be a part of.. but ... ultimately joins.

Lori and her sisters however do have one consolation.
During the entire five year ordeal from original diagnosis till the very last good bye.... They were all there for their mother.
Just as she was there for them.
They returned the favor.

Parents are that life force.
They are one of the main factors in how our personalities are formed...they are the first to welcome us to this planet...they teach us the basics ... they Keep us alive.... and when the time is right....open the door to let us out into the world.
They say I love you.. now go do what you are meant to do.

That is .... IF you are lucky enough to have gotten the good ones.
Lori and her sisters got a good set.
How do I know?
Well... In spite of only having met her parents a handful of times socially.... I know their daughter.
She is loving... kind ... generous.. and thoughtful..putting her own needs or wants before others. Someone had to have taught her these things.
Someone had to have been the example of what a good person is and does.

More often than not for a girl that person is her mother.
So when your mother dies.... I am sure the entire framework of who you are is rattled.

I lost my father seven years ago and the incredible gap missing in my life is still so deep.
I do not look forward to the inevitable day when I too will know what Lori is going through now... in losing a mother.

All I know is we are some of the lucky ones..
We got the Mom that was Tender.. Yet Tough
Strong yet willing to be Vulnerable
Teacher and Friend.

I personally believe that NOTHING and NO ONE ever dies.
It may seem like an odd statement.... but it's what I believe..
There is no death
Only Change.

The upcoming days ... weeks.. months .. and yes even years will be difficult for Lori and her family.
Daughters will be without their mother
Grandchildren will be without their Grandmother
A Husband will be without his life mate.

But know this..
She is still with you all.. Your memories of her will keep her alive in your hearts and minds... and time will do what time does.
It Forms a protective patch on your heart... the same heart that right now you are sure will give out on you.
The love of your family and friends is the salve that starts this process of healing until one day.. when you least expect it.. when you think of her you will notice it is not with pain or sadness.. but with a smile..and you will know instinctively that You were one of the lucky ones for having had her in your life.

Lori.. You know how I feel about you.. You know if you need anything I am there for you.. You know if you need to talk I will make the ultimate sacrifice and keep my mouth shut and just listen.
I am there with you...in spirit and remember..